Healthy Relationships

    Healthy Relationships

    For a teen struggling with mental health challenges and unhealthy choices, learning how to build and nurture relationships that are supportive and healthy is an important part of the healing journey. At Red Mountain Colorado (RMC), students and staff are held accountable on a daily basis to themselves and others. This helps set the environment for creating positive boundaries. 

    Setting Boundaries is an Important Life Skill

    Why is setting boundaries so essential to living a happy, healthy life?

    At RMC, we believe that establishing and living with boundaries in everyday life requires hard work and determination. It is a life skill that many of our students don’t quite grasp prior to their arrival. However, upon graduation, many of our students have come to understand themselves and develop healthy boundaries in their lives. RMC students participate in daily community group sessions, where they dive deeply into the topic of boundaries and how to apply them in everyday life.

    Our goal at RMC is to build a supportive and positive peer culture where all students learn to develop and abide by strict rules that apply to the proper cultivation and nurturing of personal boundaries. This environment resembles that of a healthy family. Creating this powerful awareness helps our students to return home and function more effectively within their own family dynamic. With the addition of “family coaching” during their stay, the RMC client is also uniquely equipped to evolve a stronger sense of confidence that supports continued growth within the family system.

    Eliminating Unhealthy Relationships to Promote and Preserve Healing

    An unhealthy relationship is a relationship between two or more people wherein the participants continually and unknowingly rob one another of essential life-giving freedoms. The “lost freedom” is a direct result of the blind support created by “dependent” behavior. The people in the relationship have no idea that they are harming themselves or each other; they simply cannot see that they are contributing to this mutual loss of freedom.

    Healing is therefore not just about building healthy relationships; it is also about eliminating the unhealthy relationships from a person’s past. Learning to acknowledge and use healthy boundaries provides the RMC client with the knowledge, wisdom, and strength to move away from those who have helped to facilitate or support their abuse of negative behaviors.

    At RMC, our students feel supported because everyone is accountable for living within the same boundaries. This experience encourages students to replace past negative behaviors and build strong relationships with others who are also engaged in getting better. Therefore, our focus is to establish and promote the principles and values of “healthy boundaries” by supporting the elimination of harmful relationships.

    Breaking Free From Codependency

    Any unhealthy relationship is fraught with conflict, tension, and destructive outcomes. Teens who develop friendships with people who enable their failure to launch surround themselves with people who support their self abuse. Simultaneously, they eliminate positive people who would oppose these poor choices.

    As these young people begin to heal, the opposite becomes true. At RMC, we provide them with a solid and supportive environment where healthy relationships replace the destructive ones.

    Unhealthy relationships endure as a way to preserve the continued patterns of non-working behavior. In an environment where there is safety, peace, and renewed joy, RMC students develop healthy connections that replace these codependent relationships and make it easier to live a stable life. This process personifies the magic of Red Mountain Colorado where healthy relationships are built to thrive.

    Healing is all about Reclaiming Freedom

    Getting better after being in an unhealthy situation involves reclaiming two “lost freedoms.”

    The first of these is the loss of the ability to be or become our best within a relationship. Any attempt to move away from or eliminate destructive behaviors creates instant friction and can draw harsh opposition. The other member(s) of the relationship may selfishly “fear loss” so they exert emotional or physical force to maintain the status quo. The person wanting to change often feels guilty and responsible for the discomfort, and then ceases their attempts to make an improvement. They feel trapped but are quickly comforted by continued use and other behaviors that maintain the status quo. At RMC, this freedom to become our best is the first to be reclaimed.

    The second lost freedom involves having the choice to leave the relationship. People find their identity in relationships, even dysfunctional or unhealthy ones. If you are miserable, it’s always easier to be in the company of those who seem to understand the misery. The members of the relationship have formed identities that are defined by what they contribute to the situation, even if it is a negative contribution. Their fear of change causes discomfort, and energy is exerted to prevent change.

    Finally, in codependent relationships, the negative mechanisms of support for one another are often connected with the continued unhealthy behaviors such as isolating, avoiding, and hiding from genuine feelings. At RMC, this is the second freedom our students reclaim—the strength to leave these dysfunctional relationships.

    Exercising this choice is usually the only way that our students can improve their health in the long term. We provide emotional support, as well as relationship skills, to help our students do just that.

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    Healthy Relationships

    Red Mountain Colorado is a premier young adult transition program, built on the shoulders of some of the most experienced and well-respected individuals in the field of young adult treatment. Most of our core staff has worked together for years, in some cases for decades, and collectively our team possesses over 150 years of professional clinical experience.